As a few of you know, I have recently loosed myself of yet another useless individual. No, not my ex-wife, my ex-girlfriend. And using the word “useless” is even a stretch. She was great in bed, gave a monster BJ, and was extremely good arm candy. However, on the usefulness vs. meaningful promises ratio, it’s a gross misalignment.
One of our issues [among her cheating, lying, being physically abusive, broke, and extremely vain, etc.] was of course social media.
Before I start, I want to say that there are a number of people on Planet Earth who don’t fuck with social media at all. That’s cool, I can dig it. This blog is NOT for you. Matter of fact, if you don’t use social media and you’re reading this blog, KUDOS! And welcome to the internet! Thanks for choosing me, for one of your first online social experiences!
No, this is for you people who DO utilize social media. For whatever reason it may be. Be it networking, spying on your children, job-searching, spying on family, dating, spying on your coworkers, generally being social, spying on your husband or wife, gaming, spying on ex-lovers, researching, spying on your current lover, standard public-figure stalking, or just passing the time.
At what point is that new boyfriend or girlfriend going to be introduced to your internet associates? After a year of being together? Never? After you bone? Or maybe, BEFORE one of you even know you’re in a relationship? (thanks Sabrina :p )
Some people say, that if your significant other doesn’t put you or your relationship on blast online, it means they’re hiding you from people. Whether it be disapproving family, shit-talking “friends” or people they’re tying to appear available for. Whatever the reason is, I guess what I’m wondering is, does it fucking matter?
Well, apparently it does. KEEP IN MIND, I’m talking about people who USE SOCIAL MEDIA! The people who just NEED to tell everyone when they change their fucking hair color. Or the annoying people who have to let everyone know their kid started school even though EVERYONE knows its the first day of school because it’s the fucking first day of school! Honestly… we don’t need to see little LaQuisha with her brand new weave and Jordan’s on as if it’s special. Or little Timmy with his brand new outfit from JCPenney’s and SuperCuts haircut. The internet is filled with everyone going to school… we get it.
Why is it people like that will put their business out there, about work, school, business, family, and outings with friends… but when they get locked down, or are supposedly exclusive… they want to keep the shit a secret? You can’t tell me you didn’t THINK to do it! You’re constantly on your phone! Or tablet, or iPad sharing details of your life, and or watching everyone else share details of theirs. There’s absolutely no way you can spend a certain amount of time with someone in 2017 be active on social media and not think to post something involving that person online.
If you are one of these people, and all of a sudden you’re a PRIVATE PERSON when it comes to our relationship, you’re damn right, even as a man, I’m going to take that as a red flag. You skank ass ho, of course! Come on!
Anyway, I think just like anything else in a relationship it should involve a little talk. It’s not like it needs to be a long deliberation such as ones involving the most major situations of a relationship: buying a house, or giving of roadhead; but a little discussion about whether we are at that point where we can and or should post things about the relationship online.
I have my reservations about some of it personally. There are two sides of the spectrum of course. There is the suspect side, of someone who wants to air on the side of secrecy. And the other who’s just a nuisance and uses their relationship as a show and tell project. Just like with everything else I think there should be some balance.
As always, none of this is gospel. Just some things I’ve heard and seen. I’ve been on every side of this coin. However, I feel there’s a huge difference between someone who doesn’t feel like blasting their relationship details on the internet, and someone who doesn’t want YOU, their partner to do it either. It’s just super suspect to me. PLEASE KEEP IN MIND AGAIN, I’m only talking about people who use social media. I remember I had an ex who had pictures of her and her ex boyfriend before me up on her instagram page well into our relationship. I didn’t trip about it because honestly, I still had some on mine as well. But it was like pulling teeth to get her to post pics of us lol. And when we broke up, them bitches were gone, it seems before we even decided it was over! LoL, like the bitch was sitting there with her finger hovering over the “delete” button everyday! lol. Anyway… I’m done.
I started writing this blog a few months ago while I was still a little butthurt over some shit. Now instead of me moping around about #138, I’m just glad I saw the light before I was out of more time and money. Because our relationship definitely was not facebook official.
Aint that some shit?
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P.S. Don’t judge me on this blog. I’m just getting back into it, and I have 8 more that I’ve written this year ready to wow you with how unimpressive my blogging skills are lately. Stay tuned lol. I’m just fucking exhausted. And my give-a-fuck meter is at an all time low. But hey… #ReadFILIPINA #FilipinaNovel 😉