Well, Hello! I know you probably don’t remember me. I’m the guy who used to blog all the time. Now it’s been three months since I’ve even bothered to… bother you with my ramblings. I felt like, while dealing with my own personal hell, a new relationship, new career opportunities, writing a new novel and of course continuing to try to be the best father I can be; that writing a blog could be good for me. Honestly, I miss this.
I originally started writing this blog about ‘Failure’, but I thought back and realised that failure is something I also can write an entire book on. As-a-matter-of-fact, I think that’d be a cool book Title:
I think we as adults believe that falling victim to peer pressure is an issue mainly suited for teenagers and pre-teens. You know, the classic story of a little girl being pressured into sex. Or a little boy being pressured into smoking a cigarette [or visa-versa]. Skipping class, etc. Do we think we outgrow the ability to be coerced into doing things we don’t want to, aren’t ready to, or just flat out shouldn’t? Well, I’m here to tell you that is complete horse-hockey! Adults, I believe are the biggest victims of peer pressure.
How many times have you…
- seen a woman buying a pair of shoes or pants because she saw [beyonce or] some other woman wearing them?
- Seen a man sporting a hair fashion because all the other guys were doing it… you know, waves, dreadlocks or braids…
- seen women going out and getting married and or pregnant because everyone they went to school with has already?
- seen guys treating a woman poorly because their friends suggested it was the cool thing to do?
- seen any gender of adult feeling a certain way about Obama, Trump or any “elected” official based on what their coworkers or family members said about them?
- seen people making home purchases before they were able because everyone else was?
- Gone off diet
- Gone ON diets
- Gone on dates
… [because] yada yada yada
I really could go on forever. We let our peers coerce us into doing so much it’s not even funny. Even supposed strong-minded and strong-willed people such as myself. Sometimes I weigh the peer pressure, and see if I can align it with a personal goal just to rationalise it… fact is, it was still peer pressure, I just made it sound good lol!
On the flipside, I’ve also published books, started a car club, gotten married, gotten divorced and none of these things were caused by peer pressure. Depending on who is looking at any of those situations, they all ended unsuccessfully. So, of course, making sure all your decisions are your own isn’t a recipe for success. By no means, but I’d rather fail [or succeed] knowing that the path I took to get to either outcome was my own, not one I was pressured into.
I suppose, the ability to rise above peer pressure is situational. I can easily avoid falling victim to peer pressure when it’s something I have complete control over. I’ve never had the yearning or even enough curiositiy in drugs or alcohol to be pressured into trying them. I can’t be pressured into sex, because it’s too exhausting. I can’t be pressured into buying shit, becuase I’m broke as fuck. However, could I be pressured into going out to karaoke tonight? Of course? And I really don’t need to go. I have too much to do, to be out singing in a smokey bar to 80 people, waiting for 3 people to clap. And yes, that’s an extremely mild example…. but give me a break. I need to wrap this up, because my daughter needs a new phone, all her friends have the iPhone and she’s still rocking the Samsung SII.
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p.s., seriously, try to identify times when you’re being pressured by your peers. No matter how old you are. And deal with it the same way you’d advice a child to.
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