A break-up. I’m pretty sure we’ve all been there. I’ve had all kinds. Ugly. Amicable. In-person. Over the phone. Through friends, even via text message!
It’s hard to say there should be some sort of protocol for break-ups seeing as how relationships and circumstances can vary in so many different ways. There is only one point I plan on making today, so this should be brief.
In my experience, when a woman breaks up with you she’s either one of two things… REALLY done with you and doesn’t give a shit what you do from that moment on OR she’s not sure whether she’s done with you and breaking up with you to see what you do to get her back. I can almost guarantee no woman will admit to doing the latter but so many of you do it it’s not even funny!
Last summer I was with someone… remember, the crazy cheating chick? Well, she broke up with me one day removing most [but not all] of her belongings from my place to go back home to her parents’ place. The last thing I said to her was “is that your final answer?” On some real shit… Instead of sitting on my bed with my chin tucked, head-in-hand.. I was more like…
Why is that?
Well, it’s simple. When you break up with someone you aren’t necessarily TELLING THEM to go out and screw someone else. You aren’t necessarily TELLING THEM to go out and get drunk. You’re also not TELLING them that you give a shit. You’re basically telling them you DON’T give a shit and you are setting them free to do whatever it is they want. You’re setting them free to do whatever it is you got mad about. You’re setting them free to do all the things they shouldn’t have done while you were together. And you’re loosing yourself of all responsibility and concern for all the aforementioned.
I know it’s hard for women to understand this because sometimes I think they fool themselves into thinking they’re the only one with admirers. The only one with options. The only ones with a line of people waiting to be with them. If you don’t believe me, go to your girlfriends i.g. or facebook page. You don’t have to go through her messages, just look at her pictures. There are guys there LIKING, COMMENTING, drooling and just begging for attention. Those guys are a small selection of her Line. Not counting all the ex-boyfriends, guys at work, church, or wherever else she may frequent. Women [whether they admit it or not] know they’re wanted. But for some reason, they believe we, the men are faced with 1 of two choices. Be with her, or die alone and or unhappy. LoL.
But for a some of us, that’s not true. Some of us have a line as well. And when you break up with us, we aren’t always sitting around crying about you and or wanting you back all over again. We’re moving on to someone else.
Back to the girl from last summer. The day after she moved back to her parents house, I had someone over to my place the next day. It could’ve been the same night, but I was tired, and playing GTA. I have my priorities straight. Not 2 days later, she was trying to get back with me, and questioning me about what I did while we were broken up.
Wait… hold up. What?
You CAN’T do that! That’s a really dangerous game to play. Beyonce said it best… “I can have another you in a minute…” You guys just need to realize you aren’t the only ones who can do it. If you care, and you don’t want him to be with anyone else… if you don’t want him to start going down that line… You know what to [or what not to] do.
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Troubled couple by the water: pixabay artist ‘Takmeomeo’
Man in bed, distraught: http://www.menshealth.com
Play boy: http://www.modeway.tk/2015/11/the-15-names-of-guys-that-make-women.html